The Barre Life

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“Do one thing everyday that scares you,”

Oh why yes, I have my face and name on Upside Motion’s instructor profile! Thus marking the start of my journey with Xtend Barre.

So yes, I found Xtend Barre many years ago when I was seeking out ways to get back my fitness levels post injury. Yoga and Pilates were great but ballet has heavy demands in the cardio department; and Xtend Barre was just what I needed.

Fast forward to 2017 – Here I am, a licensed Xtend Barre instructor.

SO what is Xtend Barre anyway?

It is a workout that combines ballet and Pilates techniques into a fast-paced cardio activity that targets small muscle groups.

Why Xtend Barre?

  1. Achieve lean and long muscles (like a ballerina)
  2. Whittle away your waist and burn fat
  3. Tone stubborn areas without the need for heavy gym equipment
  4. Need I really say more?

Where can I sign up?

Head over to Upside Motion – beautiful studios located in Orchard, Cityhall and Shenton. Check out their class schedule here.

What’s next Tabby?

Time will tell but being fiercely passionate about dance and fitness for both dancers, ex-dancers and non-dancers, the path ahead is definitely an exciting one.

Ciao for now,







“Do one thing every day that scares you,”

So I didn’t grow up as one of those girls who started ballet at 2, but I would say that my love of dance and particularly ballet started when I was about 4. The time spent at home (I was home schooled before entering primary school), I would bound around the house whenever Michael Jackson was playing on the stereo and my eyes glued to the screen when a ballet was on the TV. 

At the age of 8 I joined the Jazz club dance in school and discovered how bendy I was and how remembering steps and counting music was such a breeze. Pre-teen years weren’t very friendly so my dancing took a halt and was replaced by music. 

Dance found me again in secondary school, and when I was 18, I took my first ever ballet class and it was love at first lesson. I knew that this was the place I was meant to be in. 

In my 2nd year at the U, I auditioned and was enrolled in a “scholar’s” program and spent my days dancing. But sadly, my inexperience in handling my mobile joints led to muscle pulls and strains, and eventually injuring my back and I felt I had to stop. 

While devastated, I was introduced to pilates to strengthen my muscles and that was where I started to learn more about misalignment, and disciplined training to gain strength in mobile and weak areas.

I was back in ballet classes soon after and while it was not easy, I’m proud to say that in my short 10 years of ballet, and breaking countless pairs of pointe shoes, I’ve completed my CSTD Elementary and also the Royal Academy Advance 1 Exams, and am also a proud owner of a professional pair of pointe shoes from Freed of London (I LOVE THEM SO MUCH). 

When I first got back at ballet (I took about a year off) I started to look for other forms of workouts that would help (apart from Pilates, as I wanted to explore). Did yoga and then I discovered Xtend Barre (2014). And I was hooked. 

When I got news that Upside Motion was going to host an Xtend Barre Instructor’s course I knew I had to do it. Jumping at the opportunity, I paid the course fee and took a week off work.

I had so much fun and on the last day I felt like a child that didn’t want a camp to end. 

While it’s back to reality, and while I work on my final submission so I can add this totally unrelated certification to my list of qualifications (I hold a Dip. in Biomedical Science and a B.A in Philosophy/Psychology by the way)… what was the point in all of this? 

In all honesty, it was in those moments that I felt most alive and myself; I felt present and open minded in those moments too. 

Someone once said to me, “Be thankful for opportunities, but also thank yourself for showing up and seizing those opportunities presented to you,”

Something I will always carry in my heart.

Looking back, while it could be tempting to say “if I had known/If I had better circumstances, I would be living my dream blah blah blah,” I do believe that time and our life works out in a ways we never imagined but it is where we know we should be. And life isn’t something that can be failed like an exam; all we have to do is to keep walking, resting when we need to, staying close to the ground and trusting our gut.


Matters of the Heart: 36 Questions

“I fell in love the way you fall asleep: slowly, and then all at once.” – John Green, The Fault In Our Stars.

Would our’s be a story of right person, right timing; of days littered with courage and nights ending with laughter and warmth?

On our third of fourth date (lets leave the story of how we met for another day), a breath of courage (yes breath, not liquid) led me to ask, “Have you heard of The 36 Questions that lead to love?” And I guess the concoction of curiosity and raging chemistry saw us making our way to the park. Seated by the water in the quiet of the city’s evening, and moonlit faces.. “Question 1,”

The 36 Questions that lead to love was developed by Psychology Professor Arthur Aron and was most recently brought to the limelight by an article in the New York Times “Modern Love” column. (Here for the article)

Sparing details of the actual questions, the exercise unveiled intimate details of ourselves and made it impossible for us to hide behind the well versed narratives of our lives that is otherwise broadcasted to the world and people around us. Impossible, not just from each other, but from our own selves as well.

Like Catron, parts I found uncomfortable were when the questions requested that each of us express an opinion of each other, namely, his of me. Was there a part of myself that I did not like, that he noticed? Would it reveal that our chemistry was nothing but a poor overall judgement the situation? Quite the contrary. Rather, we were celebrating the parts that make us who we are as unique individuals; a nice change from our otherwise prescriptive world.

What I found too, was a growing wealth of empathy for A the more I learnt about him.

As we soldiered on (you’d be surprised how long 36 questions can take), a feeling I liken to the feeling of “care” filled my heart. I knew there was no turning back.

Fast forward, 4 months + 1 holiday and lots of social events since we met and everyday has felt like a blessing. And whether or not the 36 questions led us to be (or it simply sped up the process for us), I do believe that it set the tone of our path together; the care and empathy I felt made me feel responsible. A custodian of his heart and he of mine.
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Have we unlocked the secrets of love? While I rather not conclude, I do believe that the sense of accountability to fearlessly guard each other’s hearts has made the process a lot quicker and smooth. That, with our incessant want to live by it.






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Have you tried the 36 questions? Let me know what it was like by leaving a comment!

Day 1

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“Be fearless in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire,”
So I am back at it. The thought of setting up was at the back of my mind for some time now, and it really was borne out of my desire to write again, and an extension of my instagram @heytabby. And also I knew that when I started to gear myself towards my life goals, I wanted to share the journey; as a means of documentation, and also in hopes that it would help anyone who is struggling to step out of the “norm”, but without the whole shebang of leaving everything behind, losing everything, and rising from the ashes. 
In any case, so here’s where the story begins – the story of mindfulness and the journey in pursuit of passions. If that has piqued your interest, be sure to subscribe 🙂 

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